Lately I have been thinking a lot about what it truly means to be like Jesus. What does it mean when we fully give ourselves to Him. What does that look like…
In the past year or so I have gone through some trials with many friendships and other relationships. There have been plenty of times that someone hurt me and all I wanted to do was hold a grudge or to get back at them. And in some cases I hate to admit that I did. But in my heart I knew that it wasn’t the right thing to do, maybe holding that grudge or not talking to that person felt good for a while because there was this false sense of empowerment. I know you know what I’m talking about…
Sometimes people do things that hurt us, and the last thing we want to do is forgive them or dare even try to mend that relationship. I have come to the conclusion though that by holding that grudge or avoiding that person that it only brings pain into my life. The other person, they already have accepted or let go of what they were holding onto. So if I am carrying around this grudge or anger in my heart, it is only hurting me and attacking my spirit. I have seen this issue arise a lot in my family, people don’t want to let go of things, or be the first person to say sorry. Without it though there is never freedom from whatever was holding you back. In order to truly let go of something that happened you must first forgive, sometimes that even includes forgiving yourself.
Matthew 7:13-14 says,
Enter by the narrow gate. For the gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few.
This verse really speaks to me, because it is so easy to give into what we think is best for us. Or to do what makes us feel like we have more power in a situation. But if we are ever going to be like Jesus, we have to learn to forgive, and mend relationships, even, and especially when we don’t want to. Of course all this doesn’t mean to push through toxic and draining relationships, but don’t abandon a relationship or friendship because you can’t get over something. The world has created this idea that when someone hurts us we should fight back with revenge and cruel words. Love and forgive those who hurt you, maybe not because you want to but because that is what Jesus would do. Set yourself free from grudges and brokenness through Him.
Every day I’m trying to figure out how to be more like Jesus, a lot of times it ends up in a failure. But I believe that as long as we stride to be more like Him and less like the world then we are at least going in the right direction.